'My Chance' a song of mother's regret for destroying her unborn child

by Karen L. Willoughby |

Vocalist Jaime Thietten, who has recorded seven albums of Christian music, is best known for her pro-life song "My Chance," about a woman's longing for the child she gave up for adoption. The emotion in Thietten's voice relates to the infertility issues she and her husband deal with. "Give me a chance to be a mom," she told the Christian Examiner.

BEAUMONT, Texas (Christian Examiner) – The pain of infertility shudders through Jaime Thietten's voice as she sings "My Chance" for the unborn.

It is a song about the regret of a woman who aborted the child in her womb she had already named "Chance."

"There is no such thing as an unwanted child," Thietten told Christian Examiner. "Maybe you don't want him, or her. But somebody does. Give that baby a chance. Give me a chance to be a mom."

Thietten, a Christian recording artist who became a pro-life speaker after recording "My Chance" in 2008, spoke Sunday, Jan. 18, at the Southeast Texas Pro-Life Rally. She talked about her 12-year struggle with infertility, her testimony, and the dignity of all human life.

"It went real well; we were pleased," Darrell Segura, vice-president of Right to Life of Southeast Texas, told Christian Examiner. "The singer/speaker Jaime Thietten is beautiful on the outside and inside. She talked about the plight of the women who make these choices, who feel they don't have an alternative [to abortion]."

Thietten did not start out to be a pro-life singer. For that matter, though she enjoyed singing in church with her mother and sisters, she did not plan to be a vocal artist. When a high school teacher said to her, "I want your first CD when it comes out," however, she started thinking about it, and six years later she gave that teacher the first CD out of the box.

Her "overnight success" came with the release of "My Chance." Before that, however, she had toured from her Idaho home for seven years; then moved to Nashville, Tenn.

"After a year, nothing," Thietten said. "I tried to meet people, to get connected, to get places to sing, and I got real discouraged. I asked God, 'I was busier back home. Why bring us here?'"

With no answer immediately forthcoming, Thietten decided the move far from the family she was close to was to position her husband for a role in ministry.

"I was praying at home one day [about a ministry opportunity]," Thietten told the Christian Examiner. "I prayed, 'Lord, is this what you want me to do? If it is, I'll do it,' and He answered, 'Jaime, I want you to be a voice for the unborn.'

"It was almost audible," Thietten said. "He said it again. Of course I said yes, but I had no idea how I was going to do it."

Two weeks later, Feb. 1 – Thietten's birthday – she got an email from a friend who knew songwriter Rick Shadrick, who with cowriter J.T. Tallent needed an artist. The email included the words to "My Chance."

"It was just bizarre," Thietten said. "I kind of fell back in my chair because it was so clear. I've never had anything like that happen to me before. It was a confirmation that God would provide.

"It was released as a single and was much more powerful than I thought it would be," the Christian recording artist continued. "Then we made a music video, and within six months my calendar was filling up. God was my booking agent! That's when I realized with God, all things are possible. None of it would have worked on paper, but it was confirmation that when we do things in His will, He will provide a way."

"My Chance" sustained Thietten's ministry for three years. She traveled to New Zealand, Canada and all over the United States. When her husband Pete's father had a stroke, the couple returned to the West and now live in Pocatello, Idaho, where Pete is director of ministries at St. John's Catholic Student Center at the University of Idaho in Pocatello.

"The majority of my ministry is focused on the unborn, but not all of it," Thietten said. "We've got to remember human dignity extends beyond the unborn. ...There is dignity in all human life, womb to tomb. All life is precious; no life is expendable."

Thietten wasn't always pro-life, she said. But when she was in the delivery room with her sister giving birth, seeing the emergence of the infant's head in the moments before birth, she changed her mind.

"I thought to myself, 'He has no rights right now,' and I was not okay with that," Thietten said. "Now I think, 'I can't see a baby saying, 'Hey Mom, I don't want to live.'

"I have met several products of rape and incest," continued the Christian recording artist who now has seven albums to her credit. "I believe the child should not be punished for the sins of the father. Terminating the pregnancy is not going to fix the problem at hand. The issue is she was raped by her father. Terminating the pregnancy is not going to make the rape not happen."

Thietten is not a person who likes confrontation or people saying unkind things about her, she said. But she has learned to stand humbly, and to have ready answers for people's questions.

"Think of a plant growing underneath the soil," the pro-life singer/speaker told Christian Examiner. "Just because it hasn't broken through the soil doesn't mean it's not living.

"You can't argue science," Thietten continued. "Science has proven the baby's heart beats at 25 days, eight months before it's born."

Thietten said her heart hurts for women contemplating abortion and those who already have done so, for women who think there's no way out of the situation but abortion.

"The last thing I want is to make life horrible and hard for someone," Thietten said. "The thing is to get to the heart of the issue and the person, one life at a time and one woman at a time."

Thietten's schedule takes her to San Diego, California, in February for a University Catholic Conference of California. See more on her website: www.JaimeThietten.com